"He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt ...him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” ― Bob Marley
I read this quote earlier this week off a friend's facebook page. I really need to be reminded this week. J and I have almost been married 3 months and I think marriage is hard no matter when or how long you have been married. I think I need to take a deep breath and step back and reevaluate my position on a few things. I am quite sensetive these days and that is not something I have been in the past. J quit smoking for New Year's and where I am so happy about this...his mood has been less than desirable the past 5 days causing me to stress more. He's not perfect and I am for sure not perfect. I just hope that things can fall back into place and getting through a bumpy part will make for stronger relationships in the future.
I am not one to air out our dirty laundry, but sometimes it feels nice just to write it down and get your feelings out. My blog isn't private, I just haven't told many people about it. Those of you who know and read....no judgements please :) I will not paint a picture that everything is perfect all the time...that's what facebook is for!
LOL! I will say, having been through quitting smoking multiple times with multiple different people, the first 30 days is not easy. The moods are bad, the cravings intense, the feelings irrational. Bite your tongue and just be supportive. 30 days.... give it that.
ReplyDeleteA few years ago I had the realization that the #1 success factor to a marriage was marrying the right person. I don't mean that as personality wise, soul-mate, or anything like that. The person you marry has to be committed to it. Just committed... because it is NOT always easy. That's my 2 cents...